tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post9049881404395891044..comments2009-07-09T13:46:42.916-07:00Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13457358003310767865noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-10921591068510736732009-07-09T13:46:42.916-07:002009-07-09T13:46:42.916-07:00Hahahaha I am so glad that my brother-in-law let me in on this treasure of a blog. ;)<br /><br />ps I would kill for a Dorota but right now my new husband will do.Marie Hawkinshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06476822054229753732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-62946679906179452602009-04-12T23:37:00.000-07:002009-04-12T23:37:00.000-07:00I mostly just really love the Photo caption! I laughed much more at that than at the actual blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-22651492320404221762009-04-07T15:40:00.000-07:002009-04-07T15:40:00.000-07:00Im a married woman now, but all I have to say is AMEN brother! You are right on the money with these posts!Aaron and Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01095163526663873412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-84099026160741974582009-04-07T11:54:00.000-07:002009-04-07T11:54:00.000-07:00I went through the ward list of the Longfellow Park First Ward in Boston, Massachusetts and counted 91 women, 66 men, and 6 unknowns (foreign names with no picture). That's about a 3:2 girl-to-guy ratio. Of course, there may be a disproportionate share of the men that are inactive. But a disproportionate share of the sisters are overweight, so I'd say the number of datable girls to datable guys is roughly equal.Markhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11116992381567144395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-38776010784886160992009-04-06T21:03:00.000-07:002009-04-06T21:03:00.000-07:00My Bishop read out the stats during a recent ward conference and stated the number of men and number of women in the ward and if there was one more guy in the ward it would be exactly 2 women to every man.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-49963371397788939192009-04-06T19:57:00.000-07:002009-04-06T19:57:00.000-07:00I currently attend BYU-Idaho and it's a much closer ratio...just not close enough! : )Lauren Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07802150273711265558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-29599759624480539802009-04-06T14:41:00.000-07:002009-04-06T14:41:00.000-07:00Is that quote from Stranger in a Strange Land? I love Heinlein. And somehow, I'm not single!Robertnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-74629998221585745332009-04-06T13:32:00.000-07:002009-04-06T13:32:00.000-07:00Ricks College USED to have a high ratio of 3:1 or 4:1...but since it has become part of BYUI, I have been gone too long to know if it is still that way or not. I am inclined to think that the ratio has become much more close. There was a time where guys at Ricks would bet on how many dates they could go on in a single week and the girls they date NOT knowing one another (hence to not get burned in the process) because of ward boundaries being so close and so small. These days, I am sure that those games/days are over.winterman93http://www.blogger.com/profile/01027682444446845803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-38028334389390024082009-04-04T15:08:00.000-07:002009-04-04T15:08:00.000-07:00Dude, would you get off your ratio high horse? Statistically, the ratio at BYU is 5 single guys to 7 single girls. At BYU-Hawaii it's 1 guy to 1.5 girls. One time in a single's branch I was attending, a guy friend commented to me in sacrament meeting about how the ratio was in his favor, so we counted together: 26 guys and 25 girls in attendance. Sure, it's not completely even, but insisting on 3 to 1 or 4 to 1 in several of your blogs is a little ridiculous.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-34503528178799649262009-04-04T11:49:00.000-07:002009-04-04T11:49:00.000-07:00Great points Nate.<BR/><BR/>Hapily married Mom - I disagree. <BR/><BR/>Your points highlight some of the issues, but there is a logistics component to the problem. There are 50-55K unavailable men due to full-time missions. Further, another signficant portion of men are deemed ineligible because they are 18 or 19 and have not served full-time missions. This is a substantial portion of marriage age eligible men that are extracted from the population.<BR/><BR/>This shift in population makes it impossible to for a substantial amount of women to find companions immediately. When the women run out of patience, they grieve to the leaders of the church, and the church leadership rebukes the men, which perpetuates this misconception.<BR/><BR/>Before you tell me you know of a number of men that unmotivated and disinterested in marriage, for every man you know, I know of a women who thinks she is too young to marry or who has attended post-secondary school for 6mo, works at the GAP on the weekend, and thinks she is entitled to marry a dentist.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-71642747114360412222009-04-03T15:44:00.000-07:002009-04-03T15:44:00.000-07:00The church leadership at all levels, and at times with good reason, has always blamed the guys for the rising number of singles. Only occassionly will the RS sisters get lectured by the Bishop for not making themselves available to date (or any of the other observations the writers make).<BR/><BR/>The leaders have not accepted responsibility for their contribution to this phenomenon. While the rest of the world is learning to date and pair off in their late teens, the church is, albeit with good intentions, actively retarding the social and emotional growth of the youth in regard to relationships, gender, and sexuality. It's no wonder RM's are so socially awkward and behave like teenagers. <BR/><BR/>Nothing will materially change until the leaders take a multi-pronged approach and seriously address their own contributions to the situation, along with those made by the girls. <BR/><BR/>Marriage is not an entitlement program for either sex.Natenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-32733551719001821852009-04-03T14:52:00.000-07:002009-04-03T14:52:00.000-07:00From a long time, happily married Mom - Lets be honest. The real reason why there are so many unmarried single LDS girls is not because of major personality flaws, or not playing the "game" right, rather, due to the lack of serious, marriage-minded men willing to give-up their search for a "trophy wife" and get real about the true meaning of relationships and marriage.<BR/><BR/>It is kind of a "First-come, first-serve" thing. All the good ones get snapped up leaving the leftovers (ahem - are you taken yet?). Plenty of good women, not enough good men. Just like in the Celestial Kingdom right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-20149944542619849952009-04-03T09:46:00.000-07:002009-04-03T09:46:00.000-07:00"Ever wonder why people are mysterious, opaque, and closed these days?"<BR/><BR/>All I have to say is- AMEN!<BR/><BR/>A few weeks ago, I had a longtime acquaintance in the ward ask if I was all right, because it seems like no one knows anything about me in the Relief Society anymore. I said- Good. <BR/><BR/>I just can't be bothered with all the "I mean the best for so and so, BUT" chatter, and ripping down other women who get attention, and "Did you know your EQP made out with Sarah" small minded discussions. It has become so pervasive that the only way to get rid of it is to stay out of sight.<BR/><BR/>Ever wonder why the chatty kathies of the ward bemoan the practice of stealth dating? <BR/><BR/>If you determine who you will and won't go out with based on acquaintances' opinions that you barely know in the third hour of church, talk about people you don't know as if you do know them- and bemoan the fact that you are still single- You are your own worst enemy. You have no one else to blame.What If?noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-56763260839740704782009-04-03T08:42:00.000-07:002009-04-03T08:42:00.000-07:00So glad this is finally coming from the mouth of a man. I try telling fellow ladies this and they turn into premenstrual psychos who who tell me "wait until it happens to you, then you'd understand", what a crock!<BR/>So, one afterthought what about the over protective bff Olive? You know, the girl who ALWAYS hangs around the guy making sure no one gets up on her "territory"? All the way waiting for him to fall madly in love with her? I need to b-slap her!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-3810711434731061232009-04-03T08:21:00.000-07:002009-04-03T08:21:00.000-07:00Lol. I don't even know who any of those people are. :) Great job on this post! I quite enjoyed it and it is very true! Sad to say, I have been one of those girls! lol. You live, you learn!Shan and Georgehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17542148927741115653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-35271844303931295452009-04-03T06:31:00.000-07:002009-04-03T06:31:00.000-07:00Love the Heinlein quoteMorguerathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09663944868235633149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-90948290709931680502009-04-03T06:01:00.000-07:002009-04-03T06:01:00.000-07:00Love the Real Housewives throw back. This show is my new gulty pleasure.Maryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00820581011156578435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-2233129542860443242009-04-03T02:00:00.000-07:002009-04-03T02:00:00.000-07:00you're getting funny again! keep it up, you'll be back to your old self in no time! and i LOVE that you name dropped gossip girl. blair waldorf is my girl.Lindsayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08572362764394299129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-76797971732050727702009-04-02T23:10:00.000-07:002009-04-02T23:10:00.000-07:00there are some hateful comments on here. I don't get the need. if you don't like it, don't read every new post! and as for thinking broheim here will be single for a long time, what makes you think his life is defined by that? every dude i know could probably write a blog like this and do it solely off of watching his incredibly crazy female friends complain about why they remain single, and yet they don't do anything condusive to attracting someone! write on, bro! write on!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-44223878584258600712009-04-02T19:51:00.000-07:002009-04-02T19:51:00.000-07:0030% of what you say is true, the other 70% is insecure male syndrome talking. All of these digs are a sad facade to a tiny man who has probably been dumped and dissed by women more than once. <BR/>I feel sorry for you, and I hope you have plenty of vaseline. You'll be single for a loooong, long time, dude.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-20184851304979340442009-04-02T18:48:00.000-07:002009-04-02T18:48:00.000-07:00Well done! Good stuff Peter, good stuff.Lauren Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07802150273711265558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-89014422181115562332009-04-02T17:27:00.000-07:002009-04-02T17:27:00.000-07:00But aren't we are bitter thirty year olds at heart? ;-)Sam, The Nanti-SARRMMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09587528503125445405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-21562659972696241342009-04-02T17:12:00.000-07:002009-04-02T17:12:00.000-07:00Funnier than last time and less cynical - good job I won't unsubscribe yet but don't go back to bitter thirty year old who is about to get kicked out of the singles ward.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-12417140879313622772009-04-02T16:53:00.000-07:002009-04-02T16:53:00.000-07:00Dear editor,<BR/><BR/>Who the freak are you and why aren't we best friends? Haha, I just found this blog from one of my buddies that posted it on an Fbook status... I can't stop peeing my pants. Seriously, I appreciate all you do. Almost every post you've written so far has honestly passed through my mind before. Genious. Pure genious (and balls).<BR/><BR/>-A new fanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11092846300385497.post-55419139563353398872009-04-02T16:30:00.000-07:002009-04-02T16:30:00.000-07:00Congratulations!!! You managed another funny post and saved yourself from imminent doom!!!Amber Janehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18011987295781803257noreply@blogger.com